Marriage & Family Savers Ministries
436B Robinson Ave -Suite 130
Newburgh, NY 12550
Phone: (845) 561-9498 Contact Via Email
Craig and Ivy
Deliverance From Addiction
Resurrected from the Idolatry of Addiction
It has been 5 years since my wife, Ivy, gave me an ultimatum: either we sought counseling or she was leaving me, and taking our two children with her.
I got angry (as usual), but I figured I’d go once or twice, just to please her.
Ivy made an appointment with a “Christian” counselor. I wasn’t too happy about that. You see, I had been running from God for a long time. I was what people call a “PK”-pastor’s kid.
At that very first session we had to fill out a form that listed potential problems. Ivy checked “addictions.” I didn’t. So, when Bill asked about it I didn’t want to talk about, but Ivy spilled the beans telling Bill & Penny that I was addicted to pain pills, and she went on to say that I was controlled by my meds and she thought they were a big factor in my moods, my anger and my depression.
Ivy turned and looked at me, and I had to be honest. Those pills were my lifeline.
At that point Bill told us if there was any kind of addiction involved it was, in effect, an idol that had to be torn down before any kind of marriage counseling could have any effect. He recommended I go get help for the addiction before we try marriage counseling. I remember thinking to myself: This guy ain’t too smart telling us to go somewhere else. That can’t be good for his business. I didn’t know Bill and Penny then the way we know them now.
I guess that was the wake-up call I needed. My wife and children moved in with her parents while I went into a 12 month program to work on my addiction. If I hadn’t done that my wife and children would be have been gone for good. Speaking the truth in love at that initial meeting with Bill and Penny sent us on a journey that God used to restore my relationship with Him, then with my wife and children. During my time in the program I threw away my idols, and for the first time I accepted Christ as my Lord and Savior. You see, all these years I played the game. After all, my father was a pastor. I knew the lingo, but in my heart while I thought I was in control, the truth is that my addiction was in control. It was my god.
When I graduated from the program Ivy and I went back to Bill and Penny for about another year of counseling. But now it was working. I’m sure Bill and Penny could have counseled us in the beginning dealing with just surface issues, but nothing would have really been resolved as long as I had my idol. They loved us enough even then, when they didn’t know us, to tell us the truth: the addiction has to be taken care of before any marriage counseling could really have effect. The drugs had to go before the relationship could even begin to heal.
A lot has changed in the last five years. I am so grateful to God for putting people in our lives like Bill and Penny who were willing to speak the truth in love without condemnation. They have taught us so much; things I never knew that I didn’t know!