March 9, 2008

An Interesting Fast

A Devotional for Couples

"When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise."

--Proverbs 10:19

"You can't fire me; I quit!" are the famous last words of an individual who has to prove to themselves that they matter. The problem is that the self-affirming last word doesn't accomplish anything to resolve the issue or maintain relationship. It just satisfies the ego (Easing God Out) need to establish oneself as the supreme judge who will declare the final verdict. Since this is the traditional season of Lent, let me suggest an interesting fast for those who would have the courage: Try fasting the last word. I guarantee it will change the very nature of your communication and your relationship The first thing you'll notice will be a new ability to listen to your spouse more attentively, because you won't be thinking about what you're going to say when they finish talking. You'll actually let them have the last word! And guess what? The world won't come to an end! And in the final analysis, you'll find a new ability to listen, understand and communicate effectively. Try it; I dare you!

Question for The Both of Us: Do you think I always have to get in that "self-affirming last word?" How does that make you feel?

Prayer For The Both of Us: Lord, help us to exercise the self control and the humility to fast the last word, so that we can be better listeners, better communicators and have a better relationship, and you will receive the glory.

Don't forget. Our next MARRIAGE SAVER SEMINAR is coming up Saturday, March 15 at Trinity United Methodist Church in Newburgh. Register by calling the church at (845) 562-0914.

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Pass this on to another couple who you know can benefit from this ministry.

In His Grace,

Bill & Penny Banuchi